"Check him out. Unlike most of the gay blogging community (Ernie not included) he's not a screaming queer, he's not giving blowjobs to strangers...he's a honest-to-god writer first and foremost, who blogs about his life, which just happens to include his sexuality. I really enjoy his writing, and I don't say that very often. He's got a knack with the words, and I'll be disappointed if he's overlooked by those marauding agents that are apparently out there on the internet pilfering bloggers for bookdeals."
No, I am not the subject of this paragraph, but this paragraph is meant to be complimentary to someone else, someone who I've read and also enjoy. NO, my linkage is the phrase "giving blowjobs to strangers" (which, by the way, I haven't done in 7-1/2 days; and, quite frankly, I'm not sure how one is supposed to otherwise meet new people, but I digress, as usual). I don't really have trouble with the put-down per se (like most of us, I learned several decades ago that I'm not everyone's cup of tea), as much as it's just a shame that he couldn't have found a better way to compliment the guy he actually liked. Saying "your not a slut like that other guy" just seems, um, how you say, tacky?